OK, well I'll start with the one that some of you know already. I am having girl issues. Got one particular girl on my mind and I am finding it really difficult to get her out. She's 30, Maori, has big eyes and short hair and she has a habit of snogging me when she's drunk. She is driving me (and my husband, lol) crazy. John knows that she sometimes kisses me and usually I just laugh it off and he gets pissed. She once turned up at our house with champagne and pills and took me out to a work meeting. Hubby was not impressed. So that's the background. The honest truth of the fantasy is that I really want to get down and dirty with her, but I can't cause I am married and pure - or something. I am getting a ton of emails from her at the moment but coping well with not driving round there and jumping in her bed. Girlfriend is making promises to me that make me smile more than is appropriate. As she always says to me - 'Girlfriend, some day I am going to return you home with spit on your knickers.', which makes me a little mushy inside. Which is odd, because if a bloke said that to me, I'd probably hit him. Hey - how do the rest of you married peeps cope with this sort of thing? Or am I the only person that gets hit on by little brown girls?

This group just got much, much better.

All right, here's a serious question in a similar vein: how do you deal with another couple that wants to screw you and your and your better half? Or maybe just you? Or maybe just your better half? We have some friends who have several times, while under the influence of serious amounts of alcohol, made it abundantly clear that they're uh into that sort of thing in general, and into us in particular. Nothing has happened, although there have been a couple interesting nights ... which I generally pretend not to remember. In theory, this might qualify as a fantasy. For example, if our friends were lesbian lovers who happened to be Jessica Alba and Jessica Biel. Then this would be an entirely good thing, and I would just post pictures, mostly of me smiling a lot. Unfortunately, that's the theory. In practice, there are problems. Problems like ... the whole things creeps us out. And we're just not into that anyway, and it would (read: has) caused all sorts of issues ... and worst of all, they just aren't hot enough. Which I realize is horribly shallow. But true. This might be a different conversation if we were hanging out with Angelina and Brad. And it also might be a different issue if I could remove the dude from the picture. Cuz frankly, Kooky's problem doesn't sound all that bad. I'm very sharing. I could probably handle that. And the girl in the couple has told me explicitly that she'd be happy to jump my girl's bones. With me watching and serving snacks. The whole thing soured the friendship for quite a while, but we just saw them recently. And their, uh, desires obviously haven't changed. Your thoughts? Advice? Pictures and diagrams? ------------------ MTA: this group is private, right? Like somebody normally has to mail Tom for the password?

JK - Problem is this ain't creeping me out at all! LOL. For your issue, the 'Shallow but they aren't hot thing' would be a biggy for me. I cope very well when ugly people flirt with me (modified to laugh at myself). Actually usually I cope very well when good looking men flirt with me. I seem to have come over all gay - what's with that? My man would hate it if I suggested taking this one any further. He would actually be really hurt. I know this because an ex girlfriend did it to him. He's a quiet man and that sort of thing blows his mind. Quite frequently I blow his mind. I still can't believe he married me - we are so incredibly different! And just because I am feeling very flirty today. Have pics of my girlfriend. She just shaved her head for a cancer charity. I'd get spanked by Lynn if I posted the other pics! So as a general poll for the men...If your partner came to you and said she wanted to have sex with another woman, what would your reaction be?

She just shaved her head for a cancer charity. So as a general poll for the men...If your partner came to you and said she wanted to have sex with another woman, what would your reaction be?

first off bald chicks are hot. depends. if it's crazy night in new orleans that's one thing I'm all for a cheap thrill but I'm not a not a huge fan of sharing. and agree with claire no means no.

first off bald chicks are hot. depends. if it's crazy night in new orleans that's one thing I'm all for a cheap thrill but I'm not a not a huge fan of sharing. and agree with claire no means no.

So, Jo gets extra house points for agreeing with me. Even if I didn't really have a point. That's one vote for not sharing then and one from JK for the sharing issue as long as it involves hot people. Jo - as regards the hair issue, I used to have a shaved head and I asked my husband if I could also shave my head for charity as they are doing it again soon. Hubby said yes this time ( he said no last time) but now my eldest daughter has said it would upset her so I probably won't. My husband isn't a fan of any shaved bits actually. He may be disappointed tonight as I may have given myself a haircut earlier That will really piss him off. I just read on my girl's Bebo account that she wants to finish off all her piercings below the neck this year. That got me thinking too! What piercings has she got then? Claire xxx

And JK, now I want pictures of your 'not hot' mates, LOL.

No. Your monitor would break. They aren't my "mates." And I'd have to explain why I wanted their picture.

My husband isn't a fan of any shaved bits actually. He may be disappointed tonight as I may have given myself a haircut earlier That will really piss him off.

He's lying. Trust me.